May 23, 2017

Kid Tip: You deserve an equal opportunity, but that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to an equal result

The dreams that we talked about when you were little, when I asked you what you wanted to be when you grow up, may now seem far away. As we grow older, we allow the outside influences to color our view of the world and our future. Your dreams don’t necessarily change, but your fear certainly does. I want you to know that you can achieve your dreams, but that it takes a level of dedication that may seem unfair a times. You will see other people working less, making more, and you will get discouraged. Fight that feeling, and find the nucleus that burns inside of you.  

Everything that you want to achieve in life is possible, but you have to do the work. There will be people in your path that affect your progress. Some will assist you with knowledge and experience meant to help guide your decisions. Others will come in that may be motivated by something else, something more nefarious. These other people will be motivated by jealousy, fear, and the competition that they perceive. You need to rise above the noise that distracts you from your goal.

 “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

None of the naysayers can shape your dream, that’s your job. Do not let other people dissuade you from the path that your vision has laid out. Your only problem is you, and you are the only solution to that problem. You’re going to take some shots, and that’s a sign that you’re getting noticed.   

Do not fear failure, for it is a priceless opportunity to learn and grow. Take ownership of failures and challenges, and let the world see you do it. Accountability is an admirable trait, and will take you far in life. You can fail a million times, but if you drop a shoulder and plow the O line to resolution you are a hero. No one writes stories about strike outs, but look at all the stories about home runs that create legends.

“Isn’t it strange how princes and kings
and clowns that caper in sawdust rings,
and common people, like you and me,
are builders for eternity?

“Each is given a list of rules;
a shapeless mass; a bag of tools.
And each must fashion, ere life is flown,
A stumbling block, or a Stepping-Stone.”
― R. Lee Sharpe

It’s all you, kid. You have the opportunity, and you have the ability, now go out there and do something. Fear has no power over you, and your obstacles can be overcome. Write down your reasons for success and let them be your rod, and your staff. Post them where you can see them every day.    

As always, if you need to recharge and re-calibrate, you can always come home. I will be here, with unlimited love and support. And, if you’re lucky, there might even be leftover Bolognese.